Monday, November 6, 2017

Decisions, Decisions. How to Make those Hard Decisions.

"If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind." 
(James 1:5, NIV)


I sat in silence after the yearly doctor's appointment.

I was crushed to think that my child's spectrum issues became more apparent again; only because we have to discuss them. However, after much reflection, she has not changed. I have lived with her this past year and worked through all these issues. Yet it seemed like the doctor thought he knew a better way. And it was worth considering.

Still, in the end, I must live with the decisions we make for my child. I know my child best. As their God-given parent, it is my job to decide. It is wise to get all the information needed, look for blind spots, ask people close to you questions. Then in faith make a decision that gives you a clear conscience.

The "experts" mean well, but ultimately you are stewarding your child and the main objective that God gives us as parents is to train our children up in righteousness. That will look different for each individual kid and family.

God gave you the child(ren) you have. He makes no mistakes. He goes before you and prepares the way. And as we walk this life out, sanctification is the goal. We are pressured and in that pressure we learn to lean on Christ. In that process, we are changed. We get the privilege of looking more like him.

It is good for others to be concerned for our children, but ultimately we are responsible. No one can make decisions for us. So as we research, get counsel and pray, God will lead us. He will give us what we need to make the right decisions. If a professional is putting pressure on you for a quick decision, it is not the time to make a clear conscience decision (unless of course your child is dying).

I needed to take the time to talk to people, pray and seek God's word before I acted in the ways that I thought were right. Now in faith, I will walk those decisions out and trust God with them, even if the doctor would rather have it his way. In all things we do, if we trust, God will give us wisdom. And in that wisdom we truly can make the best decisions.

What are you needing prayer for now? What decisions are you needing to make at the moment? How can God help?


Father, help us to trust you for wisdom in the decisions that we need to make today. Help us rely on you and surrender to you more and more so we will reflect Christ to a watching world. Help us to raise these children up in the way that is pleasing to you. Forgive us for relying on professionals or ourselves over you. In Jesus name. Amen.



  1. Yes, we are often in the place where we have to make decisions that most parents never have to. It's terrifying and frustrating...thank God for His wisdom, love and sovereignty. <3

  2. Thank you for this VERY IMPORTANT reminder. Sometimes, I get overwhelmed with all of the scientific info and tell myself the doctor knows best. fact, God who created THIS MIRACLE child knows best.