Monday, October 16, 2017

God knows the 'way he should go'

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That is why I tell you not to worry about everyday life—whether you have enough food and drink, or enough clothes to wear. Isn’t life more than food, and your body more than clothing? Look at the birds. They don’t plant or harvest or store food in barns, for your heavenly Father feeds them. And aren’t you far more valuable to him than they are? Can all your worries add a single moment to your life?
And why worry about your clothing? Look at the lilies of the field and how they grow. They don’t work or make their clothing, yet Solomon in all his glory was not dressed as beautifully as they are. And if God cares so wonderfully for wildflowers that are here today and thrown into the fire tomorrow, he will certainly care for you.
Matt. 6:25-30 (NLT)

Have you every been in an icebreaker sessions when they ask you to choose a period of time in the past or future that you would like to visit? I hate those questions. I definitely don’t want to go back to the past, and I’m confused about the future. On the one hand, I want to know what happens, to see if what I’m doing will work out… yet if I see an outcome that I don’t like, what should I do? Can I change it? The options are confusing…Clearly, knowing and acting on the future is beyond my pay-grade!

This doesn’t stop me from worrying about my son’s future. I do believe that proactive planning is important. Worrying has a different flavor, though, and it seems to be accompanied by lack of both peace and sleep. The scripture’s injunction to ‘train up a child’ (Prov. 22:6) may prompt an erroneous belief that the full sum of my son’s beneficial experiences depend on me knowing the ‘way he should go’. This is very troubling with our typical children, who themselves can seem elusive and mysterious. Our kiddies with medical, developmental and other needs seem even more ‘unknowable’. Everyday there is more to learn, and the permutations of what to try, in which order, for which symptom seems endless. Sometimes I’m not sure that I’m doing the ‘right’ thing, and that I know ‘the way he should go’.

So I was grateful for the intervention of my Generous, Loving God, which came in the form of a beautiful conversation with my friend, a mom of a young man with autism. This young man, though verbal, has not had functional language that leads to effective communication all his life. Like many parents, his family has tried everything they knew to try, within the limits of their abilities and resources. Recently, they started to teach him to communicate through typing and found out that his spoken words did not represent his thoughts. The ability to type unveiled a witty personality with clear, critical thoughts on everything that was going on. He even shared with his mom about his faith in God and his experiences with God, speaking to him, comforting him when he wasn’t able to effectively communicate. With tears in her eyes, she expressed her wonder in God’s attention and intervention with her son, in ways she could not have orchestrated. His relationship with God developed without the typical direct instruction that kids get through children’s ministries and she marveled that God would teach her son Himself. 

I confess that tears prickled in my own eyes. We can never tell what God is doing. He is the ultimate Mystery. But we do know that He loves us and loves our children. We know that His is not limited by our ability to know ‘the way they should go’ and by our children’s ability to speak, understand or anything else. He is not limited by the limitations of our bodies, regardless of diagnosis or challenge. What a wonderful God! So, I remind myself again, to trust Him in the growing of my children, and will have faith for the miraculous interventions that are in process, even when I can’t see them.

Lord, Thank You that our children are Your children and that You watch over Your word, spoken by You, concerning them, to perform it. We trust You with our children’s lives and leave all the outcomes up to You.


- Faith


  1. Faith Your account of how God spoke to you through your friend was exactly the gift meant for me before I turn in for the night. His timing in what we need to know, sometimes through others, is perfect. Thank you!

    1. Thanks, Carrie! So glad He creates beauty from our stores. Blessings to you and yours!

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    1. You are welcome, Ruth! Hope you have a wonderful week.