Friday, September 29, 2017

What if the nest doesn’t empty?

“And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.” Galatians 6:9, ESV

His last year as a “minor” has begun. My son with a rare genetic disordered celebrated his 17th birthday a few months back. It is slowly gaining on me, this concept of what’s next.  I will no longer be in the club of moms to special needs children — I will be the parent of a disabled adult. Doesn’t sound as cute, or inspiring, does it? Seems rather dull now that I think about it.  


I have two boys. My oldest, Ben, is a “typical” and exceptional young man, who is now 20. He is cruising through his second year of college, has a lovely girlfriend, and is chomping at the bit to be unleashed on his future. My husband and I cherish every moment he still lives at home because we know those days are numbered. While many of our friends lament the the moment their kids leave home, my husband and I take great pride in the man that God allowed us to nurture and we relish the idea that he is an independent adult who is capable of doing anything he sets his mind to, with or without us.  

But then there is Nick. He won’t be moving out, going to college, dating cute girls, or any of those other things that mark “adulthood.” What will he do? What will we do? The same things we’ve done since he was born. Daily grind: wake him, dress him, toilet, bathe, brush teeth, feed, entertain, keep safe, hopefully drop him off somewhere for continuing education of activities, and then start all over the next day. Forever.  

When a momma takes a minute to look at the endless monotony of it all, she can feel really tired. My group of girlfriends are now little by little finding the new freedom and excitement of an empty nest. Because, honestly, at 50, there are things you’re ready for: sleeping in late, spa appointments, getaways to cozy New England bed and breakfasts (I’ll spare you my full list which goes on for days). This morning as all of this rattled around in my mind, these words kept coming to me, "Do not grow weary.” So I pulled out my Bible and made sure I knew the rest of that phrase. Here’s what I found: "Do not grow weary in well doing, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up." The Message Version says, "Let’s not allow ourselves to get fatigued doing good. At the right time we will harvest a good crop…" 

I know one thing: I want a good harvest. I want that which God has planned, planted and prepared just for me and there is a perfect timing with it. Because I know that I can trust Him to keep his promise, and fulfill His word, I can rely on that good harvest and get myself back in the game. How can I possible grow weary of expecting and receiving His lavish gifts and love? That is the full picture. So let me know just look at what my friends are doing or what I’m not doing, let me always remember to see that there is a complete promise here within this monotony I am gifted to live out. There is a certainty of a good harvest and I will not grow weary as I wait for it. Others reap different harvests, by sowing and tending different things — let that not distract me for a moment from my own field which is rich in bounty if I will take the time to see it.  

Here’s my prayer, and perhaps yours too:
Lord, thank you that you have called me to something exceptional. Give me the strength to wait on your promise, and to not grow weary or quit doing good. Thank you for not only supernatural edification, but also natural wisdom to know what to do in order to keep going where you lead.  

7 comments:

  1. You are an exceptional mom with a unique calling that was hand picked by God. It is pretty amazing how God gives us the strength and the desire to keep going. Of course that doesn't meant we don't need a rest or spa day ourselves. It can be difficult sometimes when you see others moving on to a life we may never embrace. But then I am so thankful that I have this great privilege to do what I do. I feel so honored God, chose me.

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    1. Thank you Maree. "Great priviledge" it truly is :-)

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  2. Thank you for sharing this. A verse I can apply to a painfully hard place. So hard you don't say that, or call it that. I can take this verse to the depths of it all and rest there. A marvelous gift and I am grateful. Donna T.

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  3. My youngest just turned 20 and will never live on his own either. I have felt the weariness of it all as well. I jokingly tell my husband I need to have a mid-life crisis but I can't ! Praying for those of us who are feeling this today, God will bring about beautiful things in the midst of this time.

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    1. Ha ha! A mid-life crisis does seem like it would be a luxury sometimes. Yes, thank you, I believe there will be beatifiuk things in the midst of this time. I'm praying that for me and you as well tonight.

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  4. This is terrific! And so true!

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