The righteous may fall seven times but still get up...
I think most parents lean toward making their child’s life lovely; beautiful, safe, enriched, and happy.
As Bethany is now 16, and adulthood is quickly approaching, I’m constantly reminding myself, my job, my goal as her mom is to step back from “high alert protection mode” and allow her to grow up. Ugh!
Thank God, my awesome hubby, Jeff, has a different, more adventurous approach to parenting! Daddy takes Bethany driving in his convertible almost weekly. First, it was driving circles in parking lots, now its country roads. She’s driving about 35 mph and doing a good job.
Jeff is much better at helping Bethany grow up than I am! I’m all kinds of nervous. I can think of every good reason not to get her hopes up that she will be able to first, take the driver’s test and be able to pass, and secondly, that she will have the ability to process the multitude of occurrences that happen while driving. Factor in crazy drivers, pedestrians, bicyclists, drunk drivers, cell phone drivers, and fast traffic, and I could just about have a break down when I think about it.
But Bethany really wants to be able to drive.
Jeff is helping me understand that failure is not the opposite of success but part of success. Bethany will never know what she can achieve unless she tries.
When I try to protect her from failing, I’m crippling her future and undermining God's work of instilling perseverance into her character.
The truth is life is full of many failures that teach us to learn so we can do better the next time. Life is all about trying and failing, practicing and changing, and ultimately, growing in maturity. If I don’t want Bethany to remain childlike, I need to have courage to let her fail.
|Bethany drives Daddy's convertible on a beautiful Kansas day!|
Help us to parent our children with courage and faith. Help us not be afraid of failing but see it as an opportunity to grow. As our children grow up, teach us to encourage them and cheer them on through their successes and their failures.In Jesus Name, Amen.