Thursday, June 9, 2016

Well...I hadn't Planned on That...

Our daughter reminds us that For King and Country won THREE awards last year at the K-Love Fan Awards
as she adds them to the list of winners for this year in the category of Best Live Show.

To humans belong the plans of the heart,
but from the Lord comes the proper answer of the tongue.
All a person’s ways seem pure to them,
but motives are weighed by the Lord.
Commit to the Lord whatever you do,
and he will establish your plans.
Proverbs 16:1-3 NIV

Last year our daughter reveled in the glory of watching the K-Love Fan Awards on TV.  We had streamed it through our Apple TV and it was a thrilling experience for her.  Considering the fact that she doesn't even like watching MOVIES because they run so long, her staying put long enough to watch an award show for 3-4 hours was a miracle. 

This year, we had planned to do the same thing.  She had even suggested we use TV trays to eat dinner in the family room while we watched.  We were ready for an "easy" night...
A.K.A. TV was going to entertain her, and I was likely going to fall asleep.
My husband, fortunately, realized a couple hours before show time that it was NOT going to be streaming live aside from on the radio station.  


How was this going to work?  How was our 11 year old daughter~who is legally blind, has sensory issues and extreme anxiety~going to chillax long enough for a RADIO broadcast???

We went into action.  
I hauled our dry-erase board downstairs and wrote down all twelve awards that would be announced that night.  (I figured we could at least keep busy with a visual "tally" of the winners.)  My husband hooked up his phone to the Apple TV so we could show our phone and iPad screens up on the TV.  We got our Twitter and Facebook apps ready to rock and roll.  Finally, we used another device to broadcast the radio program onto a portable speaker.  
I kid you not; by showing the "pictures" of the winning artists onto our TV screen for our daughter to see off of Twitter, and writing the winners on the dry erase board, and even checking out some of the live Facebook videos, we honestly sat for the entire 4 hours of the award show radio broadcast.

Why am I telling this story?  What does this have to do with anything?  

I believe that, as parents, it's our responsibility to show our children how to gracefully handle a change in plans...sometimes the change can be even more dramatic and negative than just a simple TV show not appearing for which we had planned.  For example, I actually had to cancel my daughter's birthday party in 2012 because my dad died unexpectedly and his funeral fell on the day we were scheduled to have her birthday party with her friends.   I couldn't go all NEGATIVE about that though, because it was NEGATIVE enough already...I had to make BETTER plans for later on down the road.

Here's the other thing...

I saw Christians dumping on K-Love and griping on-line about the fact that the show wasn't televised this year.  

What kind of an example are we to our children if we, as leaders of our families, whine about things not going our way?  My daughter was disappointed, and often times, disappointment leads to self-injurious behavior in her.  So, we maybe learned the lesson earlier than others that 


YES, God has a better plan.

God showed us HIS better plan on Sunday night-He showed us that:

1.  Our daughter has great auditory skills.  (I had been wondering about her ability to listen to audio books as she gets older and school work becomes more intense.  Now I know...the girlz got skilz...)


2.  Our built in TV babysitter would have tuned us out from being as engaged in the program with our daughter.  This way, we were more involved-listening for the winners, updating the dry-erase board, searching the internet for great videos and pictures.

How would Moses have looked as a leader if he'd started complaining to God about the bitter water at Marah when the Israelites started complaining to him?  Rather than joining the pity party he asked God for help and God showed him the piece of wood to throw into the water to make it palatable.  God SHOWED Moses a DIFFERENT way.   (Exodus 15:22-25)

How would Jesus have looked to the disciples and all of the followers if he would have said, "5,000?  No way!  We can't feed all of them.  We weren't planning on that!"  Rather, Andrew suggested that they consider the food this young boy had available (John 6:8-9).  Hmmm...It sounded like a wild idea that wouldn't provide much help at all, but, it appears that, if we think outside the proverbial box, God can take our wild ideas and actually make them WORK!  Now THERE'S an unplanned hiccup that brought God the GLORY!
So, how do we do this?  How do we get out of the habit of belly-aching over our "CHANGED PLANS" and use these situations to glorify God? 
Consider situations in your past where you may have gone into "complaining" mode, and think of how things ended up working out.  Did they work out better than you had expected?  How could you have responded differently?  How might things have looked if you HAD responded differently?  

Consider the plans you have for this upcoming summer.  What MIGHT go wrong?  How can you make some alternate plans so you have good back ups if things DO go wrong?  What if the pools closed?  What if the power goes out?  What if it rains and the game gets cancelled?  Can your Plan B even be BETTER than Plan A?  I'll bet it CAN!

Pray:  Heavenly Father, we know that we can be selfish and believe that our plans are the best and that we DESERVE for things to go our way.  But, Father, help to soften our hearts so we don't go to the angry places that society tends to the complaining, to the griping, to the public admonishment of individuals and companies...soften our hearts so we remember that often times, these circumstances are unavoidable.  SHOW US YOUR BETTER PLAN.  Quiet us so we can hear your directions to find your better plan.  Amen.


  1. Tammie:

    This is terrific.

    I am working on my auditory skills too.

    Our Christian station is Light - I've not listened to them for a while.

    Maybe breakfast time!

    1. Hahaha...great idea! :) Can you stream K-Love or Air1 on your computer? :)

  2. I really needed this. For the 2nd summer in a row I am having trouble finding a sitter for my daughter. Frustrating, disappointing and challenging, but you have encouraged me to pray to see things differently. Thanks.

    1. I'm so glad, Denie! Have you found someone yet? Will keep you in my prayers for just the right person to come along to care for her this summer. God's GOT THIS!!!