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Hurricane SeasonI remember the first real hurricane that I experienced in NYC. Perhaps because we were a little on the outskirts of the city, and a bit farther from water, it didn't seem like much to us. Yes, there was devastation, and I'm grateful I didn't live in any of the flood prone areas. Still, the experience was... ok. Now, I've experienced quite a few hurricanes in my life. I grew up in Jamaica, W.I. Knowing the kind of structure you need to live in and preparing for hurricane season was a way of life. Those who could afford it, knew what kind of structure they needed to live in, what kind of roof they needed, to have a chance when the hurricane (that was often bigger than the entire island when looking at the satellite pictures) hit the island. I learned that to handle a storm, you should know it's coming and strategically anticipate it, while eating some good food (because the power will go out and your refrigerator will be of no use) and slow down to manage the fallout afterwards. Oh, and be flexible all through the process, since the insecure sheet of wood off the other person's house could crash into your window in a second.nWhat you don't do is try to manage the hurricane. That's above your pay grade.
Hurricanes - A way of lifeThese past few months have been a whirlwind of an other kind and I've been using all my smarts to manage the windstorm. For a couple weeks I was flexible and relaxed, then I got to the point where I started to say, you should be more organized than this by now, you should be better at this by now, you should be limiting.... Those SHOULDS were so loud. I should be controlling the storm. Mercifully, the Holy Spirt is on the job, trying to keep my mind on the path of renewal (Rom. 12:2). Controlling the winds is above your pay grade.
The New NormalMy message to families caring for kids on the autism spectrum is usually to embrace the New Normal. It can be a hard message and I don't hand it out carelessly. But it's a reflection of the constant journey to not fix the new normal, or even control the new normal, but to go on the ride with God and trust that He is the architect of the new normal. This means
- agreeing with the Controller of storms that they will come and that He is doing His job
- building your (inner) structure to survive the storms (Matt 7:24-27, eat good food before the hurricane)
- enjoying the present moment (with some good food)
- being flexible with what the wind brings (did I mention the good food?)