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Wednesday, March 16, 2016
3 Steps to Get a Clue
Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” Exodus 14:14 NIV
My husband is the cop, but I find myself playing
detective way too often. My son, who is non-verbal, got sick recently and I
began searching for clues. The dialogue in my head went something like this:
“Okay, he has a high fever and isn’t eating. And he
took a nap! Unheard of. Something is seriously wrong if he isn’t eating and he
is sleeping during the day…..Is his throat sore? Let’s give him some Advil and
see if that helps.”
After the ibupropren kicked in--talking to my husband:
Me: “Mike, he is eating a bit but see how he looks
when he swallows? His throat definitely hurts.”
Mike: “You could be right hon.”
Me: “I hope it’s nothing serious.”
Mike: “He’ll be fine.”
Me: “You always say that.”
The next day he was running around more (like
usual!) and his fever passed so this detective lady thought he might be on the
mend; just some quick thing I guess.Alleluia!
Thank you Lord! He can go to school tomorrow and I can make my appointments and
get something done on my to-do list.
Luke did go to school for one day but looked
exhausted when he came home. I felt like a bad mama and a poor detective. An
expert was needed to help me find more clues so off to the doctor we went the
next morning, even though Luke is NOT a fan.
He did pretty well. Meaning he let the doctor get a
quick Luke down his throat while the nurse and I held his arms but swabbing his
throat was a no go. The doctor said his throat looked bad but is it a virus or
strep throat? She called in an antibiotic in case it is strep and since he
hadn’t been on one since 2014 we decided to have him take it just in case.
Shortly after we got home from the doctor’s office I
noticed something new. Luke had a rash. Oh no detective Deb, what does that
mean? Does he have something that means he will be sick, contagious and HOME
FROM SCHOOL for an extended time? Please no Lord!
A REAL expert was needed now. I better call Donna,
otherwise known as my mom. She theorized and commiserated with me like good
moms do but we couldn’t crack the case. So round and round my brain swirled and
pondered not going anywhere except in circles. Any other special needs parents
(aka detectives!) out there ever ride this crazy train or is it just me?
Eventually the over-analyzing exhausted me and I had
to STOP and take a deep breath. That was the first thing that helped me. Step
two was REMEMBER. Remember the One who made Luke and holds all the answers in
His hand. The Lord. This is the same heavenly Father who, as Moses led the
Israelites out of slavery and they were terrified he told them, “The Lord will
fight for you; you need only be still.”
The final step that helped was to TRUST. To stop
playing detective and to leave Luke’s health in God’s hands instead of worrying
and obsessing. For me, trusting in the Lord means continually coming back to
Him and placing whatever issue is happening that moment in His hands.
Then, at least for a little while, I can stop
Prayer:Lord, we praise you and thank you that know
everything! Our knowledge is so limited and we would be in trouble without you
Father. Thank you that we can trust You. In Jesus’ name, Amen.