Thursday, February 18, 2016

When People Say, “I Don’t Know How You Do It”

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"The Lord is the source of all my righteousness and strength."
Isaiah 45:24a, NLT

Imagine one of your worst days of late. 

Maybe you’ve been to the doctor with your child a few times this week, the washer just died, one of the two old cars you own just got a flat tire, and you are not feeling well either.  Yet, you are taking it all in stride.  You know that the only reason that you are even able to somewhat function right now is because of God in your life.  It’s the prayers for wisdom, patience, and comfort that only He can give.  It’s the reading of your Bible for discernment and reassurance of God’s goodness in your life.  It’s trusting God with everything going on. It’s faith that He loves you no matter what, and even though you don’t understand why your world seems to be crashing in all around you, know He’s using even this situation for your good and His glory. 

It’s at this time when you hear statements of how awesome you are.  I always feel a bit uncomfortable with those comments for two reasons.

The first is that I am conflicted between the selfish side of me wanting to hear those statements, because of the desire to get some recognition for all that I am doing, and the fear that I will become proud and take all of the credit.

The second reason is that I want to give God the glory, but I often give some weak response instead. 

God has given us such a remarkable opportunity to share our hope, especially when He is in the trenches with us.  Because of that I have made an effort to think about how I can respond to those comments before they even come.  Sometimes a simple recognition of God’s handiwork is all that is needed, but other times much more is called for.  Sometimes it will be those very statements that can be the door to telling someone of the greatest love ever.  I pray that the next time someone says those words to me, I won't offer some self focused response without giving credit where credit is due. 

Pray:  Lord, help me to give you all of the glory when people think that I am doing this hard stuff on my own.  Help me to boast only of you and share of your great love.

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  1. This is a hard one. My first response is to want to punch them :) seriously kidding of course. But those words often put a knot in my stomach. To me it is the tone of their voice. I hate pity. I do find most people don't know what to say so that is the go to phrase. Either way, you have given me a different perspective on how to respond.

  2. Thanks Donna. I hate the pity too.

  3. Today, I'm not sure how I am doing it. Things have gotten so challenging that my faith feels like it is in a hurricane. I pray that my family's journey points others to Christ.

    1. Thank you Denie for your openness of the struggle. Lord, I pray that Denie can feel your tremendous love for her even when everything is falling apart around her. Show her your hand in her life and help her to trust you with the hard things she is dealing with. Amen

  4. I give God the glory for letting comments like that slide. I just say that if I didn't have Jesus, it wouldn't be done.