Wednesday, December 9, 2015

Single Parents, Depression, and the Holidays

Depressed Mom

“Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever.” Hebrews 13:8 NLT

Disclaimer:  This post is not about me.  My husband is alive and well. 

Sometimes we don’t want to celebrate.  It’s the Christmas season and I know I should be all about merriment and good cheer, but I’m not feeling very cheerful right now.

I am missing my spouse who has gone too soon.  For me it was death that took him from me.  For you it may be divorce. I am struggling to figure out how to make this Christmas special for my special needs family amidst the tragic recent loss.  

At times I feel the best thing is to be surrounded by others, but I just want the world to stop until I’m ready to go on.  I just want a very long pause.  Is that too much to ask?  Who do I share my deep pain with?  Who do I avoid?  Can I just stay in my PJ’s every day for a while until this cloud lifts?  Will it ever lift?  I don’t want to cook, clean, or take care of things that I know I should and need to do.  I am depressed, but I am not alone.  Statistics say many people suffer with depression around the holidays.  It is often not talked about.  Special needs parents are no exception, especially single parents.    

I am grieving in this most joyful season when I am about to celebrate Jesus’ birth. There are still parties to attend which I may or may not go to.  I am still a special needs family which in itself is often overwhelming.  How am I supposed to do this single parent thing too? How are my kids handling this new normal?  I am at a loss about so much, but there’s always one thing I know.

God is still God.  He’s the same God that will never leave me nor forsake me.
He’s the same God I can trust even my husband’s death with. 
He’s the same God that promises me that His way is PERFECT.
My circumstances keep changing, but He never will.  I don’t get it, but He does.

His word promises me that.  I need to cling to His promises in order to live this often both difficult and rewarding life set before me. 

I may need to go on medication, seek a psychologist, or be able to work through this without professional help.  Whatever path is taken will be ok because He’s got not only my joys, but my pain as well.

Prayer:  Lord, in this season of blessing and joy, help special needs parents, especially those doing it alone.  Encourage them with your hope, peace, joy, and love and help others to come alongside them to support them in practical ways. 

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  1. Beautifully presented in a balanced way. I agree with you from the depths of my heart. God bless you.

  2. Our God remains constant and faithful even when we are not. :)

  3. Thank you and Yes, God is always faithful.