My wife's voice was soft and quiet. You could hear the weariness and desperation in her words.
Here are her thoughts.
- Compassion fatigue is very real and very draining. Compassion fatigue takes a toll emotionally, relationally, spiritually, and physically.
- A little appreciation goes a long way. Simple acts of kindness and thoughtfulness carry a significant blessing to a caregiver.
- Telling her she needs to do something for herself does not help, it just puts more pressure on her.
- Caregivers don't always know how to ask for help. Or even what to ask for.
- Caregivers have to fight to avoid being jealous of others whose lives go on seemingly without challenges.
- The ones she thought would be there to help were not. But others she did not expect to help were there for her. She learned a lot about the essence of true friendship. But God is also using this experience to teach and reveal so many things to her. Even in the midst of the storm, he sees her.
She is more perceptive and attentive to the little “God moments” that happen every day in our lives that we often take for granted or fail to appreciate. She has seen that God will send people, thoughts, and moments into your life all through out the storm to remind you of his presence and his provision.
Finally, she longs more than ever for the promise of heaven. For no more tears, no more pain, no more sorrow, and no more sickness and illness. She longs for Jesus to, as he says in his own words, "make all things new."
She longs for the day we can all go home.
PRAY: "Father give us eyes to see when others need the same mercy and grace from us that we receive from you. And teach us to love as you first loved us."