We were just finishing dinner, waiting for our last speaker of the event, when this young girl walked over to our table and sat down. We sat there for a few minutes in silence when I said "Hi." She looked up and smiled and we started to talk. We made small talk for a few minutes then things got a little deeper. She started to share with me her excitement in the fact that she would be leaving for college in 2 weeks, a day she never thought would happen. She proceeded to share openly what it has been like to live with severe depression and anxiety for the past 6 years. She was very thankful that in the last year it seemed to have lifted significantly.
She said, "I do still have some bad days, yet now, they don't defeat me like they used to. I am able to get through knowing they won't last."
She said the hardest part has been the fact that no one, neither family or friends, was able to truly understand what she was feeling in those deepest depressing times. She felt very alone yet knew God was and continues to be with her. She holds tight to his promises in the hard days.
The next words took me by surprise. With such joy and peace she said, “I know what it is like to feel alone, believing that no one understands. If I can help just one other person in the midst of my struggle to know they are not alone, I believe my purpose for going through all this will be fulfilled!" My eyes filled with tears, such wisdom at such a young age!
In Christopher Ash’s book Job: The Wisdom Of The Cross, he states, "In our suffering we often ask the question why? Why, because it is not suffering that destroys a person, it is suffering without a purpose."
There are many reasons why God might allow trials and suffering in our life. I do know one reason is that suffering prepares us to be able to come alongside others who are struggling. It brings us to a place of deep compassion and mercy which allows us to say with complete honesty, “I get it, I understand!" Sometimes that is all they need to know -- they are not alone and that someone truly understands. I know God has purpose in our trials. Once in a while he lets us SEE that purpose. That girl at such a young age has suffered much. Although still struggling, she is seeking to minister to others. Offering them the hope and joy she has found through Christ! What an encouragement she was to me! What a beautiful gift she can give to others, the gift of truly understanding. Through our trials and our children’s struggles, God has trusted us with that same special gift. I hope we never hesitate to reach out to others and offer that gift.
Originally posted -http://donna-shiftingsand.blogspot.com/2015/07/the-gift-of-understanding.html