|Swimming in Lake Tahoe|
It sounds like such a harsh question with an obvious answer; but really, it isn't. We know a lot of people who actually seem more comfortable wallowing in what they DON'T have rather than looking forward and working toward happiness.
Do you want to get well?
We moved to Nevada over a year ago and immediately I fell in love with Lake Tahoe.
But, during the course of this summer, I have decided that Lake Tahoe is not just my FAVORITE PLACE, it is my HAPPY PLACE. Lake Tahoe is the place where I GET WELL.
As the parent of a child with special needs, I think the criteria for a Happy Place may be different than that of a parent who is able to do more independent, adult activities. Here's a definition of MY HAPPY PLACE:
- My child is happy
- My child is safe
- My child is entertained with minimal energy being exerted by ME
- I feel relaxed
- I feel safe
- I don't even care what else is going on around me and my family; I am totally in the moment and enjoying the beauty of this world
Lake Tahoe has some areas where it is very, very shallow even out quite far into the lake; so my daughter, who cannot swim even after years of lessons, is comfortable there. She is sensory-seeking, so she loves the sensation of water. (When I think about it, our happy place when we lived in Wisconsin was Noah's Ark Water-park, so it makes sense that our happy place now would include water.) There are waves in the Lake Tahoe water from all of the boats, but they are nothing like the powerful tide of the ocean, so I love Evie's delight in "catching the waves" while still being safe and in control.
We were at Lake Tahoe today and we just hung out in the water, bouncing a beach ball back and forth as the waves carried us in to shore. When we got in too close, we'd just walk back out and start all over again. Evie started singing some TobyMac songs and I sang along. A man walked by, just as I was thinking what a perfect moment we were enjoying together, and he said, "Someone is very happy...." as he looked at Evie.
Yes, someone was very happy...and that was reciprocated in her mama...in the person who feels her sadness, who shares her anxiety, who hears her heart. Evie was happy, so mama was happy too.
God wants us well, but he wants US to WANT to BE well...so we need to go to our happy place; our place of healing when we need to get well.