Monday, March 23, 2015

Dear Parent, Don't Go It Alone

Two are better than one, because they have a good [more satisfying] reward for their labor;
For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!
Again, if two lie down together, then they have warmth; but how can one be warm alone?
And though a man might prevail against him who is alone, two will withstand him. A threefold cord is not quickly broken.
~ Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, AMP ~

Solomon asked God for the gift of wisdom when he was given the option to ask anything of the Lord.  It was granted him in full measure to the point where people from around the world sought out that wisdom.

So why do we silly humans think we are smarter than the very words He poured through one of the wisest humans that ever lived?

Dear Parent, don't go it alone!

I know some of you feel like you have worn out your welcome with relatives and friends who seem to glaze over when you are trying to share yet another difficulty you are enduring with your child.  They have minimized your struggles.  They have left you without help when all you need is a simple word of encouragement, a prayer, or a tiny gesture of kindness to keep you going.  They don't know how difficult your life is every single day.

But God never meant for you to do this on your own.

I know some of you feel so utterly betrayed.  Those you thought you could depend on have demeaned you.  They gossip behind your back, passing judgment on your parenting skills because of your child's autistic behaviors or OCD compulsions.  They don't know the hours and hours you have spent in therapy and follow-through at home.  They have no clue how exhausting your life is having to focus so much attention on this child.  Their stinging words are so unfair.

But God formed you for fellowship, not isolation.

I know so many of you are tired of always having to be the one to reach out, to try again, to find solutions.  Life has you weary.  You have been burned before.  You are afraid to trust again.

But God has an entire army of parents just like you out there, willing to put their arms around you and say, "I know just what you mean."  They've walked this grueling path too.  They need you as much as you need them.  And using Solomon, God calls them better, good, and more satisfying. He feels sad for you when you don't take the help available to you.

In Proverbs 3:27 God tells us, "Do not withhold what is good from those who deserve it; if it is within your power to give it, do it." (VOICE)  That includes YOURSELF, my friend!

Don't bring more suffering upon yourself by further withdrawing, wounded one.  There are so many of us out here hurting too.  We're just waiting to put our arms around you in friendship and say, "What!  You too?"


PRAY:  Magnificent Maker, thank You for giving us the shelter of one another, especially when we are feeling battered by this world.

*For information on plugging in to Snappin's Side-By-Side Small Group mentoring, e-mail barb@snappin.org.

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