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Monday, January 19, 2015
When NIMROD was a compliment.
My friend, Alycia
“Since he was the greatest hunter in
the world, his name became proverbial.People would say, ‘This man is like Nimrod, the greatest hunter in the
hear the word Nimrod you probably conjure up words like foolish or idiot.How did a word like this change its meaning
from a great hunter to an idiot?That
doesn’t really matter for my story, but if you’d like to know how it changed look
In the same
way, how a word is used can change the meaning as well.Take for example, bipolar.I’m sure you’ve heard this come out of
well-intentioned mouths before.He is
bipolar.It seems innocent enough, but
think about.You don’t say he is cancer
or she is Down Syndrome as if you are describing the persons attributes like
he is artistic or she is athletic.Several mental health diagnosis are expressed in this way.We all know bipolar disorder is part of that
person just like nearsightedness, but that nearsightedness doesn’t conjure up
negativity like bipolar does.When we
say she’s bipolar we make it be the main thing that person is.
When we hear
the word bipolar we think of words like poor decision maker, depressed, manic,
irresponsible, unreliable, foolish, and so on.So if someone says he’s bipolar our first thought is all of those bad
things that could happen and we immediately make those words be that person.I know several people with that diagnosis and
these are some of the words that come to mind:fighter, compassionate, resourceful, loving, forgiving, understanding ….
I think of
my friend, Alycia.She is one of those
people that you instantly like.Kind,
caring, compassionate, understanding…She has bipolar but it is not her.It defines her only in the sense that it has
made her a better person because of her experiences with dealing with it.Just like someone having cancer has to watch
for signs of the cancer returning, so she has to watch for signs of a manic or
depressive episode coming.When I first
heard that she has bipolar disorder I thought, WOW!!You see, I was one of those people that had often
labeled someone that had bipolar with all of those negative things attached to
it.Until we see someone with bipolar or
other stigmatized disorders as people first and foremost things will never
So the next time you're sharing your child's diagnosis with someone say "has", not is and the next
time you hear someone is bipolar, think "has" and be amazed by them.
Prayer:Lord, help me to look past the various
negative symptoms of disorders and see the person first and foremost.Help me to encourage them and learn from
them.Lastly, help me to advocate for
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