Monday, November 17, 2014

Your Heart's Desire

"Enjoy what you have rather than desiring what you don’t have.  Just dreaming about nice things is meaningless – like chasing the wind." (Ecclesiastes 6:9 NLT)

Enjoy: to experience with joy; take pleasure in:  2. to have and use with satisfaction; have the benefit of:


If you are a special needs family you likely don’t have the “things” that you desire, but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy life, myself included.  Just dreaming about those things can really change my mood and make me envious of others.  On top of that many special needs parent’s dreams go beyond things.

Many special needs parents dream of NORMAL.

They’d love to just have a normal meal together or a week without a call from the school.

They desire a normal family vacation or even a vacation at all.

They wish for a time where they could just hang out with normal people and feel normal themselves.

They want their child to at least feel normal once in a while. 

They just want some normal in their life.  They aren't even picky.  Any NORMAL will do just fine. 

I’ve said it before that NORMAL is overrated and possibly even boring.  Even the word itself sounds boring.  Secondly, there are norms, but is there really normal when if comes to people?  Lastly, I think the so called normal is unattainable and actually can hurt our walk with our creator.  When we focus on our desires, even if that desire is for normal, then our focus is not on God.  We really can enjoy life even without all of those things.

Think of the joy you experienced when your child with Autism learned to ride a bike at the age of 10 or speak her first sentence at the age of 7 depending on where she was on the spectrum.

Think of the joy when your son with bipolar took ownership of his illness and agreed to stay on his medicine.

Think of the joy you felt when your downs syndrome daughter was able to sleep through the night.

Think of the joy when your child with cancer didn’t get so sick from his last round of chemo.

Think of the joy you got because your son that had a personality disorder was able to keep a job for more than a month. 

Think of the joy when your daughter with a sensory processing disorder, (SPD), and Autism disorder is able to transition from one difficult thing to another without stimming or having a meltdown. 

If your child was considered normal would these things have brought you such joy?  I think not.  None of these instances changed a diagnosis, but all gave you great joy.  Often our special needs children teach us so much about life, God, and what’s important without them even knowing it. 

This Thanksgiving and every day to follow let’s seek to enjoy the life and surroundings we’ve been given.

Pray:  Lord, Help me to enjoy all of life no matter my circumstance.  Teach me about you when I have little, when I have much, and everything in between.

Ann Gapinski

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