the simpleton goes blindly on and suffers the consequences.
Have you ever caught any of the TV shows? You know the ones I'm talking about -- The cable programs showing people who are preparing for TEOTWAWKI (the end of the world as we know it).
It may sound crazy at first, but it doesn't take long to grab your curiosity and suck you in while channel surfing. It isn't just a matter of families hoarding supplies and a generator. That's for amateurs! No, these people have incredible, elaborate bunkers with all the modern luxuries. They know how to filter water, save energy, protect themselves, and stay safe for a long, long time if the unthinkable happens. The amount of knowledge that these people retain is vast and detailed.
Still, it is not merely the types of items and the procedures that earn these people the title of "Preppers". It is their repeated practice and full family engagement that makes them set for virtually anything. They are completely ready, timed down to the second, for any catastrophe they may face.
I'm not saying that we have to be obsessive. Still, there are many things we can do to make the school year transition better for everyone.
- Involve the entire family -- If your family is anything like ours, there are multiple health issues, multiple emotional issues, varying personal expectations, jobs, and activities that play into the entire dynamic. In order for there to be any semblance of harmony in our home, everyone's needs and issues must be laid out on the table. This likely requires a family meeting where all of these things are brought to the fore and put on paper.
- Get a calendar out for the whole darn family -- Is there anything worse than scheduling conflicts within your own household? Once the needs are laid out, get things on a calendar. For instance, I have one child who needs physical therapy while she's juggling school and a job. I also have another child who needs visits to multiple other specialists. With yet another child who thrives on activity and needs extra help with homework, as well as a husband who likes to play, ALL of these things need to be put on a calendar. We even have chores to get worked into all of this busy-ness. Thankfully, a dry-erase one-week board on our refrigerator helps bring that week's essentials front-and-center. This supplements our monthly calendar.
- Be informed -- Just as preppers know what they need, you must know what your family needs to survive and thrive. Are there accommodations that must be in place for your child to succeed this school year? Is there a better therapy schedule that needs to be adopted. Did that extracurricular activity cause more stress to the family than benefit last year? What are your rights if things don't improve with the school district this year? Tapping into awesome resources like the Unfrazzle App or the Wrightslaw website can be a REAL lifesaver!
- Make wise purchases -- You only have limited resources. After you have determined your priorities and educated yourself, explore what items you can access for the best value. That doesn't always mean the cheapest price. Check with other parents to get insights on iPad cases, noise-blocking headphones or other adaptive equipment. In addition, look into medical equipment lending organizations or local charities that offer grants to help pay for some of this year's serious necessities.
- Practice! -- While the notion of visiting a classroom and walking a schedule ahead of time may seem obvious to some, there are other things that you can do to practice for the new school year. Getting back into the rhythm of waking and bedtime at appropriate hours for the school year is helpful the month before. Practicing the routine for getting ready in the morning is helpful. Guiding instructors through the practice of what works for your child is useful as well. In The Don't Freak Out Guide to Parenting Kids with Asperger's, Sharon Fuentes makes a great case for sitting down with your challenged child ahead of the school year to complete a "One Pager" for the new teachers. With the amount of mind-numbing information in your child's IEP, it will bless both your child and their instructors if you can put on one page what adjustments or accommodations will be needed to help your child have a successful year in school. For example, does specific seating help? Is a check-in/check-out system help your child with their day? As much as possible or age-appropriate, your child should drive what's on this "one pager". This gives them practice at advocating for themselves. And by the way, this brilliant idea is useful for ANY family with a child who has special needs, a disability, or a chronic illness.
- Be on medical solid ground -- As much as possible, start the school year with a regular rhythm of medications, treatments and therapy in place. Make certain all of your important doctor's visits and medical procedures under your belt. Having been there several times before, I can tell you that it makes the start to the school year extremely challenging when your child has to be out any time for the first month class is in session. Those first few weeks can literally set the tone for the entire school year.
PRAY: Holy Spirit, we want to be prudent parents when we see what is coming in the weeks ahead. Pour Your wisdom over our families as we prepare for the difficulties that seem inevitable at the start of school.
~ Barb Dittrich