Monday, August 18, 2014

Delayed Blessings

“But Jacob wouldn’t let Joseph’s younger brother, Benjamin, go with them, for fear some harm might come to him.”  Gen. 42:4 (NLT)

“But the famine continued to ravage the land of Canaan.”  Gen. 43:1 (NLT)

After much agony Jacob finally let Benjamin go on the second trip.  When they returned he got the news.

“’Joseph is still alive!’ they told him.  ‘And he is governor of all the land of Egypt!’  Jacob was stunned at the news—he couldn’t believe it.”  Gen. 45:26 (NLT)

Remember the day when you didn’t want your child to go to that party.  It’s not like you didn’t want them to have fun.  It’s not like you thought something bad was going to happen there.  It’s not like it was the wrong crowd. 

It was because you were afraid.  You were afraid of what might happen.  You just don’t know if you can go through “that” again, whatever “that” may be.

What if there was an accident on the way to the party?  What if the kids ignored your child?  What if your child didn’t have fun?  You knew the odds of things going wrong were slim to none, but you were still afraid.  And even if things went wrong, does it mean that they shouldn’t go?

Fear was gripping you because of the past.  You couldn’t let it go.  That other child that had things go terribly wrong was imposing these fears on you without them even knowing it.  Or it might even be the child that wants to go to the party has had so many of those nail biting type of experiences that you just don’t want to let them go.  You would love it if you could bubble wrap them and then send them on their merry way to have fun and be safe at the same time.  You know it’s normal to be afraid and you also know that it’s normal for your child to go to the party.  Sometimes God is extra patient with us as we work through this fear. 

I remember when we had a stillbirth over 20 years ago and for several months or more I didn’t want to let my kids go anywhere or do anything.  Of course this was impractical.  Most were in school and life was still going on regardless if I was ready or not.  Within a week or two of Marie’s passing our son, David, was invited to a party.  I didn’t want him to go.  My husband, Mike, so gently helped me see that not only were my feelings normal, but that I still needed to let him go.  It was tough, but worth the blessing he received by being able to go to the party. 

Another time, years later, when I had different fears, I didn’t want my girls to drive at night.  I didn’t want them driving anywhere after dark because I was afraid of the “bad guys” out there.  Not that there aren’t bad guys out there.  But we all know they aren’t all “bad guys”.  This was beyond normal.  It was something I just had to let go of.  

Just like in the passage above, we all hold on to feelings and even sometimes delay the blessing.  As our kids go back to school, whether they are special needs or not, let’s pray that we know when we are delaying the blessing and when our fears are warranted.

PRAY:  Lord, give me discernment as to when my fear is holding back your blessing on my kids.  Help me to rest in your peace and contentment as I release the hold of fear in my life.  Lastly, help me to discern when I truly should not let them go to that party, a friend’s house, or whatever it may be. 

Ann Gapinski

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  1. I have been struggling with this lately. I wrote a blog post recently about my worry problem.

    1. Marsha, Thanks for your thoughts. Fear/Worry can really cripple us at times.