Monday, June 2, 2014

He asked them?! Why?

David and his grandpa.  Grandpa was being Vanna from 
"Wheel of Fortune" as part of entertainment .  Dec. 2009

"Above all, clothe yourselves with love." Col. 3:14a  NLT

It doesn’t happen all that often.  Typically there are three to five of them; sometimes more or less.  I should have known that David doesn’t do much of anything the typical way.  First he asked his father.  Then he asked his grandpa.  They both said yes.  After all, when you get married you want people that mean a lot to you to be a part of your wedding party.  So why not ask your dad (pop), and grandpa?  You are close to them and have a special relationship with both of them.  David did just that. 

I thought back to why he asked them and the thing that stuck out the most to me was that they took the time to disciple him.  They invested in himThey tried to train, teach, encourage … in a way that would be received based on David’s personality and temperament.  As fathers, your kids look to you for many things.  They often look to you to provide their needs but it goes beyond that.  They need their dads to teach them on their level, to really meet them where they’re at and help them to be everything that God wants them to be.  They need to be their daddy, father, and so much more.  It’s a lot of responsibility to put on a father, but it’s so worth it in the end. 

Mike, David’s dad, occasionally didn’t do everything right, but he always tried to do what he thought was right for each of our kids based on their individual personalities….As his kids are no longer “kids”, he continues to be the parent that he believes each child needs him to be, still not doing everything perfectly, adjusting, and pressing on in the parenting department as his role with them changes.  As they grow up, your kids become your friends too, but they will always be your kids.  Now he’s a grandpa too and it continues. 

So when it says, "Clothe yourselves with love" it is telling you to sacrifice, spend time with, disciple, meet them where they are at.....


Don’t give up when it seems too hard or they don’t seem receptive. 

Don’t give up when you think you are doing it all wrong.  Refocus and press on.

Your child may never know all of the sacrifices you have made for them.  Keep sacrificing anyway.

Rely on God to give you the wisdom and strength to parent each of your children and He will do just that.

I am so grateful for all of those special needs fathers that are investing in their kids often when they are already drained physically, emotionally, and financially.  It’s those special moments like when your child does something totally unexpected like David did that you can really see that your investment in them is really worth it.  Sometimes it’s long in coming and you weary of the endless long days and nights with little to no encouragement.  Keep on keeping on.  God will see you through and even if no one else ever sees it, God does and after all that’s all that matters.  Your kids may never verbally thank you, but you will know that you have done the best that you could with God’s help.

You may see that they really are becoming the person God wants them to be by: a hug, an encouraging word, they calm down when they are with you, they are willing to get out of their comfort zone because you’ve helped them through a difficult situation in the past, they stick up for you, they are able to accomplish something because you have encouraged them, they look to you for comfort …..

As Father’s Day approaches, we remember our dad’s and especially thank those dad’s with special needs kids and all that they do to be a Godly father to their children.

Prayer:  Lord, Give all fathers encouragement and wisdom as they parent their special needs kids.  Help them with their physical and emotional stamina and with the financially draining aspect that so often accompanies a special needs father.


  1. Great post Ann. Sharing on my Facebook page!

  2. Love this! I'm going to share this on my husband's FB page:)

  3. Thanks Deb. I need to share this with my dad (David's grandpa) too.