Wednesday, June 25, 2014

Don't Do This Alone

Two are better than one . . . . If one falls down, his friend can help him up. 
But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! 
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 NIV1984

It's wearing me down---my younger daughter's specialist appointments, my health concerns, job challenges, financial issues, the constant vigilance to make sure my older daughter's emotional needs are being met, the crazy schedules, all of it.

When life gets overwhelming, I have a tendency to isolate myself. I don't reach out to others like I should. I stay home more, struggling with fear and anxiety, trying to get myself together so I can support my husband and children. That doesn't work very well. Staying to myself actually increases my anxiety, making the whole situation even more difficult to handle.

I'm doing better this time. I have let a few trusted friends in on the details of our situation, asking them to pray with us and for us. I am so blessed to receive texts, emails, and private messages through social media asking how we're doing and if there's a specific prayer need for the day, often accompanied by a word of encouragement or a scripture verse to cling to during the day's rough moments.

When Solomon said "Two are better than one," he knew what he was talking about. The Bible talks repeatedly of fellowship between believers and encourages us to lift one another up.

None of us can do this thing called life alone, and that goes double for parents of kids with special needs. Don't do this alone. Find someone to come alongside you to pray for you, encourage you, and check on you on the hard days. It makes all the difference in the world.

Father, Thank you for the friends you have brought into my life to pray for me and to encourage me to keep looking to you when times are hard. I am so thankful that I can be real with them, sharing both the joy and the pain. Amen.

Photo credit: Jennifer A. Janes


  1. Jennifer, your post definitely resonates in a special way here, especially with our passion for our mentor program.

    1. I am blessed that this ministry has that available. I couldn't make it without others coming alongside to share the burden!

  2. I do the SAME thing!!! When things get hardest, I isolate; which is the opposite of what God wants us to do! Thanks for the remider!