Friday, February 14, 2014

A simple Valentine's chocolate!

“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up.  But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!” Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, NIV

“Miss u babe.  Love u.  Green apples.”  


My husband, Mike, is a police Lt. and worked a double shift because of SWAT training.  The following day I sent him the above text.  Yes, he was stopping at the store and I needed more green apples.  But I was also missing him. It wasn’t just  because of the extra hours at work though.  Even when we are both home together I often miss him.

Being a special need parent, as you know, often requires the kind of tag-team parenting typically reserved for the first couple years of a child’s life.   When one of you takes over baby or toddler detail so the other can sleep or have a break.  But this is required for Luke, our 9 year old who has autism and is non-verbal, and I don’t think that will change anytime soon.  So, the “how about you watch Luke to make sure he’s not getting in to trouble now while I work out and then I’ll take a turn” continues.  And what it means is that Mike and I are often like ships passing in the night—or the day—whatever the case may be.  Then of course we want to spend time with our 14 year old, Brandon. And, oh yeah, we still need to keep up with the regular chores and demands of life.

So what is my HUGE valentine’s wish for today?  That after Luke goes to sleep Mike and I each stop doing other things and sit on the couch together holding hands.  If we are exhausted from the day or week we don’t even need to talk.  Just sitting and vegging out together would be wonderful. Okay, throw in a Valentine’s Day card too.  And maybe some chocolate.  Can’t forget the chocolate. 

I hope and pray that you also have some down time with those that you love this Valentine’s Day and beyond. 

PRAY:  “Lord, in the midst of caregiving and busy lives help us to slow down and spend time with you and the family and friends you have given to us.  Help us to trust you in all things and look to you for our help and hope.”

~ Debbie Abbs


  1. Awesome, Debbie! It's so true! I called us the co-captains of team Evie...problem is, we never nurtured our marriage, and that starts to eat away day by day. I encourage a good Christian counselor for anyone who thinks they are beyond being in love...God can make ALL THINGS NEW!!! Happy Valentine's Day to everyone!

  2. Thanks for sharing Tammie! And you are so rigbt! Happy Heart Day!!