Wednesday, December 4, 2013

A Letter from Dad: Life Sometimes Doesn't Seem Fair

An angel from heaven appeared to him and strengthened him. And being in anguish, he prayed more earnestly, and his sweat was like drops of blood falling to the ground. (Luke 22:43, 44 NIV)

My Son,
Too often we as Christians begin to believe that God, in the great name of Jesus Christ, will always save us from trouble and give us all that we might want, or at the very least, certainly everything we need. (And, far too often we confuse wants with needs.) Yet, in reality, it is perhaps the opposite. I believe Yahweh uses trials in our life to shape us into the very person he desires us to be. All the while never forsaking us or leaving us alone. 

On a very personal note, I, myself thought I was a prayerful person, a faithful person, a good Christian. When you were born, it was the best day of my life. A joy I had never experienced that was greater than any I had ever seen. I was so happy. Then, a mere eight months later, the doctor told us you had hemophilia and my heart sank in my chest. All we knew of hemophilia at that moment was that it was filled with pain and suffering and led to an early death. We didn't know that good medicine was available and that you could live a normal life. We cried and were filled with great fear and anxiety until we learned more. Your mother and I were broken emotionally at that moment. We were literally and figuratively brought to our knees.

I cried out to my God over and over again, asking him why this was happening. How could he allow this to be? What did he want from me? Of course there was no audible reply from HIM. So, I began to pray like never before. And, HE began to shape me and make me a better man, a better father, a better husband than I would have ever been. I became HIS humble servant as I knew I needed HIM in a way I never would have experienced otherwise. HE used my circumstance in life to mold me into HIS own image.

Perhaps the best example of this truth is Jesus Christ. Success for Jesus came at a very high price. He had trials, tribulations and outright persecution. His father in heaven allowed these terrible things to happen to Jesus in order to accomplish a necessary outcome. Jesus seemed forsaken, meaning abandoned or forgotten. Jesus suffered. He was beaten unmercifully. He was nailed to a cross and left for dead. His friends abandoned him. Yet all the while, Yahweh was there with him, using him, shaping him into the perfect sacrifice for a very meaningful purpose. Not only did the suffrage of the Christ make him the person Yahweh wanted him to be, in fact, the suffering of the Christ gave us all an opportunity to be who the father wants us to be.

In today's world, in our American culture, what happened to Jesus would be unthinkable. There would be a public outcry even from people who did not know him. Try to put yourself in his shoes and imagine what he was thinking; how he must have felt, emotionally. How much real fear did he experience? How much anxiety did he go through? The Bible tells us:
An angel from heaven appeared to him and strengthened him. And being in anguish, he prayed more earnestly, and his sweat was like drops of blood falling to the ground. (Luke 22:43, 44 NIV)
A person can experience Hematidrosis when they are under extreme stress, a condition in which their sweat turns to blood. Jesus was under such human stress that his very body began to break down before he was even taken captive. And, God allowed this to happen. The great and mighty father stood by while his son was captured, mocked, beaten, tortured and eventually killed. Why? Why would he put his son through such a horrible experience? 

I feel sure that Yahweh wept as Jesus suffered. He surely felt every strike upon the back of his child. God in Heaven watched with all the power to stop this horrible event, yet he let it go on. And, because he did, Christ became the most influential person who has ever lived. Every organized and industrialized nation of people in the world recognize him and his sacrifice. His story is so compelling that millions of people weep when they are told of all that he went through. And, millions bow to their knees and accept him as their Lord and Savior. God the Father used him to accomplish this great mission in a way that no man on Earth would do to his only son. 

We, in our humanness, may not ever understand why. Why this had to happen in the way that it did. But, no one among us can deny the power of this event. The Glory it brought to Heaven and God's Kingdom is overwhelming. Yahweh used the circumstances of Jesus' life to shape not only him, but every person who had ever lived and will ever live. But, ask yourself, does it seem fair? Does it seem right in our understanding of what it means to be human? It is a question that I feel is too large to ponder, too deep to fathom, to complex to realize. 

So, I say to you, Life is not fair. It often does not make sense. There will forever be so many, "why is this happening", moments in your life that you can't explain and many of them will seem so unfair. When these times come, cling to the one thought that God the Father, Yahweh, is always there in the midst of your trouble. And, he is using your circumstance to shape you into the person he wants you to be. Do your best to trust him and follow through, just as Jesus did. Don't ever stop pushing forward. And, always be thankful that Jesus, in the midst of the horror of his troubles, with all the power to walk away……stayed to see it through. He completed the task against all odds. He faced his situation with confidence that his father would never forsake him even unto his death. And, the reward for a faithful son was resurrection and eternal life. God will see you through even in the worst of times. 


~ Wm Brad Nolan
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  1. I hope this messages touches at least one person who reads it. Going back just today and reading it again, gives me pause to wonder at the awesome God we serve. How and why he works the way he does. It is up to us to simply have Faith and to Stand with the Full Armor that he provides and remain, steadfast in his love. No matter how we feel about the circumstances in our life, Yahweh is and will always be there, even unto our death and destruction.