Monday, December 9, 2013

A Christmas Letter to Mom

"Your eyes saw my unformed body;
    all the days ordained for me were written in your book
    before one of them came to be." (Psalm 139:16, NIV)

Never in her wildest dreams could she have imagined this would happen. It certainly wasn’t the path she had planned out for her life.

When she initially got the news she was stunned. This pregnancy wasn’t expected in the first place after all. But to then get the news that this child wouldn’t be typical…well, no one ever plans originally or even dreams of giving birth to a special child.

She had learned this baby wouldn’t be typical while he was still in her womb prior to giving birth. But as she tried to comprehend what that meant, she struggled to grasp the whole picture.

She didn’t realize how hard the early years would be for her and her baby as they tried to come to terms with their “new normal.”

She felt all alone and isolated. It was such a rare condition that she felt like no one else around her could possible understand or relate to her experience. No one she knew had even heard of this happening before.

She worried she would lose friends. She worried that her family would turn their backs as well. And she feared her husband would drown in denial, anger, and bitterness like so many dads of special children.

What if he became just another vacant dad? What if he couldn’t figure out how to be engaged or involved so he just checked out?

On top of all that, she knew that this new baby was going to die prematurely. More than likely, she would outlive her own son and have to watch him die.

Someone had told her that she was chosen. Someone had tried to convince her that God had a hand in this somehow. But that was awful hard for her to believe. How could God have really chosen her to be the mom of a special child?

Sounds familiar doesn’t it? We know and hear of special families who go through something like this all the time, don’t we? Maybe you relate to some of this in your own personal experiences.

If so, you certainly can relate then to Mary, the mother of Jesus.  She is the mother of the special child I'm referring to in the story I just wrote.

Mary would have related to so many of you, and your thoughts, feelings, and emotions. After all, Mary was the mother of a “special” child herself.

That “someone” who told her God had chosen and called her? That someone was a personal messenger from God himself, an angel named Gabriel.

And he greeted Mary by saying  “greetings most favored one, the Lord is with you.”

Mary was chosen and called to be the mother of a very special child, the Son of God. God picked her and God found favor on her.

And what about you dear mothers of children with special needs? God has chosen you, God has called you, and you have found favor in Him as well.

No matter how overwhelmed you get, no matter how often you despair, no matter how hard you struggle, no matter how intense your pain can be at times, you are favored.

Through the exhaustion, through the feelings of inadequateness, through the struggle to understand why—the fact remains that God chose you and called you.

From Mary to you, God has a heart for the mothers of special children. May he fill your heart with that love this Christmas season, and let it sustain you.

Merry Christmas chosen ones,

1 comment:

  1. Luke 1:42 She gave a glad cry and exclaimed to Mary, "God has blessed you above all women, and your child is blessed."
    If you are a mother of a special child I declare these words to you!! Thank you, beautiful mothers, for all you do to give our world these amazing children!