Friday, November 15, 2013

The Slumber Party Dilemma


"Therefore we do not lose heart.  Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.  For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.   So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is eternal."
~ 2 Corinthians 4:16-18, NIV ~

I heard a rumor of an upcoming party from my daughter. I said to her that if the parent called me about this party I would consider it. Often I hear about parties but the official invitation never comes. I just considered this to be the same kind of situation.

However, this ended up to be a real party that she was invited to. Not only was it a party but it branched further into a slumber party. For any "normal" family this is probably not a big deal, however, I have a daughter with many anxiety and social issues. Now I am in a dilemma. 

My daughter loves people and loves to be around people but lacks the skills to do it well, at least for any significant amount of time that is. Typically I watch her and her interactions then coach her afterward. This would be a different situation for both of us.

The parent who was hosting the party is my closest family friend. I have no problems with her or her house because she knows my daughter's special needs. In fact I cried tears with her about even taking a chance to allow her to go. There would be four other girls attending as well. Girls we knew and thought would be safe so I took the leap of faith and sent my daughter.

I sent my daughter with a game plan for facing any difficulty. What ended up happening was she called me six times. One was at midnight because she wanted me to pick her up. She then decided to stay after we talked. She was having fun but it was all just a bit much for her. 

On one hand I wanted to run in and rescue her, however, she needs to learn how to do these things and this environment was a great learning tool for her. I am thankful for the trial and I know it has made her stronger.

When I spoke with my friend about her behavior it was so similar to what I deal with day in and day out. She had her typical obsessions and anxieties. My friend did what I do with her and that is to stop and pray. My friend said she probably prayed more that day than any other day. I believe this. 

Special needs are difficult. They are different from what many people even see or experience. However what we face through these challenges are reminders that this Earth is not our home. All trials are achieving an eternal glory. We must keep our eyes fixed on what is to come knowing that Christ will come back for us. All of these things that seem so hard will no longer be true. All things will be restored yet in the meantime we are being made new inwardly day by day. In order to live well with children with special needs we must trust God by faith in His promises of truth.

What are you needing to trust Him for? I would love to pray with you.

Pray: Lord, help us to keep our eyes fixed on You and the things that are unseen. We need your help in this. Help us to trust your promises as we parent by faith. 

1 comment:

  1. Love that your daughter gets sleepover invitations from a friend who knows you, your daughter, and what works best for you! (Visiting from Love That Max linkup!)