Friday, September 27, 2013

Dear Doctor...

Hear now my argument;
    listen to the pleas of my lips.
~ Job 13:6, NIV ~

Dear Doctor,
I'm scared.  My child, the one I love more than life itself, is not well.  Won't you please help?  I know that your training and experience allow you to access tools that can bring us answers and treatments that are lifesaving.  

Dear Doctor,

I'm scared.  this isn't the first time we have faced this type of medical crisis, but we just can't seem to get to the cause.  You keep prescribing the same treatment.  Yet, these maladies continue.  Aren't you curious?  I'm concerned.  I hope we get to some answers here.


Dear Doctor,
My child has missed so much school.  He feels miserable.  He is praying for death.  Please help us!  The color has blanched from his face.  His usual humor is gone.  Something is not right here.  Won't you please look a little further to get at some possible causes?  I know he is anxious, but I also know this isn't all in his head.

Dear Doctor,

I am upset and sleep deprived.  I keep following the instructions you give us and nothing improves.  Your staff treats me with aggravation every time I call.  I am not trying to annoy all of you, but wouldn't you be persistent in your pursuit of answers if this were your child?  Please help us!

 

Dear Doctor,
I wish you knew what it was like to live our lives.  We don't have the income you have, to pay all of the bills that bury us from the countless times we have been charged to come see you for answers.  We remain without resolution.  My child is ostracized by other children.  It is so heartbreaking to watch my child in endless pain, both physically and emotionally.  I really thought you were going to help us.  Now I'm not so sure.

Dear Doctor,

I am a competent, informed advocate for my child, not an ignorant, apathetic fool.  Watch how you speak to me.  You work for me.  I do not work for you.  I expect you to return my phone calls when I specifically ask to speak to you.  I am trying to save time -- both for you and for myself.  Believe it or not, my time is worth something too.  If I miss many more days of work to be with my sick child, I won't be able to pay all the bills you are so vigilant in sending to me.  It benefits you to get my child well just as much as it benefits me.  Let's get some answers here!


Dear Doctor,
I am tired of the way you treat our family.  I have found the strength to explore my other options.  Do you honestly think we parents don't talk to others to compare our experiences?  I have tried to give you the benefit of the doubt.  We have followed all of your instructions.  All we wanted was to be listened to and to be treated with a little human dignity.  Instead of granting that simple request, you have added to our sorrow and suffering.  We hired you to relieve it.  I am currently visiting other doctors for second and third opinions on my child's health.

Dear Doctor,

We are moving on.  You are fired.


PRAY:  Father, turn the ear of doctors towards their patients.  Help them to treat us like part of the team, rather than an annoyance.  Soften their hearts, and increase their empathy.  At the same time, Holy Spirit, give parents like us an extra measure of self-control.  Put your arm around our shoulders and your hand over our mouths, so that we do not give full vent to our frustrations when we speak with medical staff.  Give us discernment, so that we know when to press for answers and when to keep silent.  Thank You for the blessing of our children.  We want to do the very best for them.  Please honor that desire you have implanted in our hearts.

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2 comments:

  1. I hope this is real - not the pain - but your letter progression and conclusion! If more people were willing to die on this mountain, things might be different. It's tragic that the doc you are seeking is few and far between! Been there and done that!

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  2. Ugh. This is painful to read. I am so sorry that you have received so little respect, collaboration and proper treatment from this doctor. Unfortunately, this scenario is all too common for families like ours whose children do not have a clear cut diagnosis, are long-term care patients and don't 'get better'. We become persona non grata in the ER and some clinics. Of course I used to notice when doctors would pretend not to see us and quickly run to hide. Thankfully, after 73 hospitalisations, our son is stable now and is enjoying good health. I will pray that you won't have such bad luck with the next doc. Good luck!

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