and we don’t always
recognize his voice.
- Smiles Matter-- Having time off of the usual school year to refill our "smile bank" is replenishing. Whether it is staying up late to watch a movie or get silly with glasses that have the mustache attached, doing those out-of-the-ordinary little things are a welcome diversion for all of us from the pressures of school. It doesn't have to be as complicated as we like to make it. So often, it is the simple occurrences of life that create a lasting, joyful memory. Be encouraged, as I am, knowing that we are still cooperating with God's perfect season by finding family joy in little things like relishing a meal together or watching lightning bugs in the evening.
- Skills Develop -- While I watch others running their kids to every practice and game possible, my children are winning at life by learning some basic, necessary skills. Those of you who have children who are cognitively or emotionally challenged understand what a big deal this is. My 11 year old Aspie who often behaves like a 5 year old when it comes to responsibility is learning to develop new basic life skills like cooking and cleaning. My 13 year old is gaining responsibility by doing tasks without me having to ask. He is better grasping the need for family teamwork when it comes to tending a home. I don't know about you, but I am finding these essential pieces to adult life much easier to impart to my children when we don't have the demands of homework and more rigid schedules.
- Social Understanding Grows -- During the school year, the difficult social encounters seem to come flying at me like a driver at 50 miles per hour without a windshield. With our son, it's having to talk through how much he wants to share with people about his hemophilia or what to do when someone asks why he's in his wheelchair again. There is more time to emotionally rehearse situations or talk things through when we aren't rushed in the Summer months. With our Aspie daughter, so many, many social cues are missed. This Summer has afforded me opportunities to talk her through the nuances of how to correctly plan a play-date, how to let someone know they've hurt us without losing them as a friend, and how to discretely keep certain news to yourself. Those are some HUGE steps. The learning is different from academics, but definitely no less important.
PRAY: Oh, Father, thank you for reminding me that you work in far more ways than I will ever see or realize! Let me rest in that knowledge as I try to redefine what a perfect Summer looks like in my own expectations.