Friday, April 9, 2010

Crumbs & Leftovers

"So the last will be first, and the first will be last." (Matthew 20:16, NIV)

I woke in the middle of the night aching with the thought, I really do need to get in touch with a doctor for my own health issues. How often I've spoken to mothers in the same position as myself over the years. Unless it's a crisis, we fall to the bottom of the list.

Caring for a family usually puts mom on the back burner, but it's especially true when parenting a child with special needs. When never a week goes by without being at a doctor's office, hospital or therapist's, it's hard to carve out time for oneself! With a less-than-stellar cash flow, even spending money on a decent haircut or cup of designer coffee becomes a thing of the past. Heck, we're not just getting a cold dinner - We get the crumbs and leftovers in every aspect of our complicated lives!

It's easy to become discouraged. Still, as always, our loving Savior holds out hope for us. We may feel our efforts go mostly unnoticed and taken for granted, but we have a God who sees us! ("El Roi" - see Genesis 16:13-14) He sees our every tear, our every sacrifice and our tireless efforts as caregivers of these precious children.

In Matthew 20:16, Jesus reminds us of His infinite generosity and mercy. It's not the big shots who go to the head of the class, but the obedient servants who live out His message. While it may feel like we are plodding on in glamorless fashion, we hold great value in our Savior's eyes. Our dutiful daily care of our special children holds infinite value to God! How often do we think that only those doing something more "important", influential or professional is all that counts? How many days do we collapse in the evening feeling like we've accomplished nothing? Take heart! The Lord is showing you that your often thankless work, done in love, puts you at the front of the line!

While this is good news, do be mindful that we cannot give away what we do not possess to begin with. We must make sure we maintain at least some level of personal care lest we wind up broken down, burned out and hospitalized! Being deliberate about making so much time to briefly engage in a favorite activity (reading, crafting, having a cup of coffee) each week is key to becoming a sane, healthy parent.

However, at those times when crisis with our kids put us at the absolute bottom of the list, we can persevere, knowing that the King of Kings considers us to be most cherished of followers. "For when I am weak, then I am strong." (2 Corinthians 12:10, NIV)

1 comment:

  1. Hello, Nice to meet you.
    So true so true.
    I have to remember that too.
    I learned how to make that designer cup of coffee for myself and trim my own hair ha!
    But even stopping to care for feet or hand is a forgotten thing that unfortunately can so easily become a "task". Every once in a while I remember and it really does refresh me and make me a better mom by reducing the stress.