Monday, January 11, 2010

I Can't, But God Can!

Jesus looked at them and said, "With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible." (Matthew 19:26, NIV)

Home infusion isn't always the easiest of undertakings. While there is definite convenience & benefit to having this therapy available, hearing your child cry out "I can't" when it's time for you to insert the IV needle in their arm has to be one of the most heartbreaking things a parent can endure. Even so, I always tie our experience back to God.

This morning, Charlie had another rough infusion, tears rolling down his face, having to be physically restrained to place the IV. Nevertheless, we did end up having a discussion about what we can handle. When he expressed his inability to undergo yet another stick of the needle (he's had well over 1,000 in his short life), I told him, "You're right, Charlie. You can't, but God can." I then proceeded to share with him amazing stories of people who trusted in the Lord, were obedient to Him and who accomplished surprising things.

And isn't it just the same with us parents? Most parents of a child with special needs can't even count the number of times we've been told things like, "You're so strong", "I couldn't handle what you do". Another of my all time favorites is "God never gives us more than we can handle. He just must have known that you would be able to handle this." To all these comments I say "poppycock"! I believe God does allow more than we can handle, so we will reach out to Him in our journey. There is no possible way any of us could handle some of the things we survive daily out of our own character or power! In fact, many of us take our turn feeling shell-shocked due to the valleys of our child's continuum of health. If we focus on those valleys, our lives will be hopeless indeed.

But our hope lays in a BIG God! This is the One who parted the Red Sea. He made promises and never failed to keep them. He rained mana in the desert. He gave the little Israelites victory over much stronger & well-equipped adversaries. He healed the blind, the disabled, the sick. Yes, this One even conquered death itself! God has proved Himself over and over again to us throughout history, so why should we ever look to ourselves for our meager strength when He offers us an everlasting hope that is beyond our wildest dreams?

Yes, days will come where we can barely put one foot in front of the other. Our strength and faith may dim, but call out to your Savior. He cares so deeply for both you and your child. He is more than willing to put His glory on display by helping us through the big and the little when we rely on Him!


  1. Barb, this rings so true right now for myself and my darling 15 year old daughter. Long explaination short, her recovery from her 18th surgery in 15 short years. This is going to be a VERY LONG recovery! With every little therapy that we have to do twice a day two times each...I can only imagine what words are going to come out of her mouth. I appreciate this blog and I can tell you this much, I will definately be sharing this with her. Sorry to hear that Charlie had a rough morning. Was kind of the same around here. You are such a wonderful person. Thank you so much for being you. Peggy

  2. This is an absolutely beautiful post. Your faith is amazing. Thank you. I needed to hear this today.